He is an alcoholic and he left my mother and me when I was 9. The reasons as to why your child is refusing contact with your co-parent are unique to your situation, but some causes might include: If your child is refusing contact with your co-parent due to a reason that directly concerns their safety, bring this to the attention of your lawyer or other legal professionals immediately. For the past 10 months she rarely wants to talk to me on the phone when she is with her father. It has been said elsewhere but talking is not the primary language for children. Legally, he's got no right to see her, or your son.She's got the right to see him, as does her brother.If she doesn't want to use those rights, she doesn't have to.I agree with SGB about why that might be.Put her needs first. Additionally, consider your own behaviour and how that could be influencing your child not to want to see their other parent. Laughter is a great tension-dissolver and connection-builder. )She is scared of him, and usually there is a reason when children are so scared of their parent they don't want to see them. The last time my daughter saw him within 5 mins she said she wanted to run away and find someone to help her. One particular instance in which this can become challenging is if your child doesn't want to comply with your parenting time schedule and begins refusing to see their other parent. “My child is under the influence of someone who doesn’t want him/her to contact me.” The problem with all of these points, of course, is the boomerang effect that occurs whenever a parent blames her own child for poor behavior. Talk through how you feel about the trip with a friend or family member. Legally Leavanheath there is a court order. I would not force her to see him, surely it's possible to get the court order reassessed? Can the court require the mother to force the child to take the phone? Estrangement from important others is a sad fact of life for many people. She remembers being in the same vicinity as he while family fun was being had. She is outgoing and sings and dances! Encouraging your co-parent to reach out to your child through phone calls or video chats can provide a way for them to connect with your child in a low-stress environment. Have a DC aged 3 months to 6 years that suffers from dry, rough skin or nappy rash? Child Doesn’t Want to See Alcoholic Parent on Father’s Day Ex-Etiquette. My ex does have anger issues and I believe that this is the underlying reason for her not wanting to go. ... Then it’s back to school time and our oldest is angry with him for something that daddy said and doesn’t want to visit with him. and me without them. In coping with estrangement, if you see yourself in the “active participation” category, then you’re actively engaging with the fact that your adult child won’t talk to you. 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